Saturday, October 8, 2011

Weigh in and sad day

I want to thank everyone for the kind comments hoping my back to get better.  It is 99% better! I didn't exercise at all last week and really worried I would not lose any weight.  I weighed in this morning, I have lost 2.2 lbs!!  Yay!  That brings my total to 33 lbs lost.  I will resume exercise on Monday.

On to the sad news.  My babysitter/friend is a very obese woman.  She has been watching both of my kids since birth and has put on more and more weight over the years.  For the last few months she has been having issues with "rips" in her lower abdomen/bowel area.  She has been in and out of the hospital.  They told her she needed surgery to fix it but they didn't want to risk doing the surgery at her size.  They told her it could kill her.  I got a call from her on Thursday night she was in so much pain on her way to the hospital.  She was telling me she of course could not watch Olivia Friday.  Little did I know that was the last time I would talk to her.  She had emergency surgery and got through it.  They had to leave her sedated and go back in today to see if the infection was draining properly.  Well her body could not take it.  Her blood pressure kept dropping and she slipped away from us.  I was shocked to hear the news this morning and I am so sad.  My kids are at their dad's this weekend so I drove to his house and we talked to them about what happened.  It was so hard.  I broke my babies hearts.  The kids loved her like a grandmother. And she loved them beyond words.  We will miss her so much.

Ultimately obesity took her life.  This is why we all have to work hard to get this weight off of us.  Do it for yourself and for your family.  I know I am not gonna let it take me away from my precious babies.


  1. Heartbreaking. I'm sorry for your loss.

  2. That is horrible. I am so sorry for her your hurt, and your children's pain.

  3. First off congrats on your weight loss and glad your feeling better.
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss, terribly sad, prayers go with you and your family especially your children!

  4. Oh no, how awful :( I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, it's scary when you hear things like this. Hits too close to home. My condolences to you guys and her family.

  5. What horrible news.. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Obesity kills, and it's such a tragedy. It's a wake up call to hear about such things, and my heart goes out to you!

    I also wanted to thank you for your kind words on my blog. I sort of feel a bit insecure about blogging about my fat, but oh well.. If it helps! I'll add you to my blogroll and make sure to call again. :)

  6. For you and your children to care about her so much, she must have been a truly lovely person. And it's sad the world lost one of the good ones. I have worked hard to get out of obesity, now I"m working hard to STAY OUT of obesity (since regain is the norm). I think of it as a killer. A body killer. A life killer. I don't want this murderer in my life. I don't want to commit suicide with food.

    I wish your friend had been able to tackle the problem. But we're still here. WE MUST WIN this fight.

    God give us grace and strength to do it...because it IS possible...

  7. Just read the "about me" section on your page, and your story (other than divorcing your first husband) could have been me, albeit a few years back. I really can't blame my three boys and the three pregnancies for my journey into morbid obesity. Like you, I was sick alot of the time when I was pregnant, AND my cravings were for salads and fresh fruits. Go figure? I lost weight during my pregnancies too. Oh, not much, but I didn't gain! But then, after each pregnancy and before the next one, and my boys are spaced out 13 years between the 3 of them, I had plenty of time to pack on the pounds. Then when the youngest was born in 1986, I didn't stop. More pounds and more pounds and there I stayed until 2009, when my dr. said, "The EKG seems to show you've already had a heart attack." Holy Cow! That really got my attention. I thought it was too late for me. Here I was--58 years old and I was definitely NOT ready to check out. But then I thought, "Enough is Enough!" I was tired of being embarrassed to go to the doctor, embarrassed to walk through life, embarrassed and humiliated because of what I had done to myself. I got serious about losing weight, right then and there. I lost 30 or 40 lbs. quickly and in March of 2010, I started walking, and I have never looked back. My goal then was to be below 200 lbs. by my 60th birthday in Jan. of 2011. I made it with a couple months to spare. From a high of 328 pounds in July of 2009, I am currently weighing in at 143! (That's a loss of 185 lbs!) WOOHOO! A healthy BMI. Never had one of those before! Never hit a weight loss goal before either. And since my goal was 160, which I hit on April 15, 2011, that means on Sat., Oct. 15, I will celebrate 6 months of maintaining that goal. A HALF OF A YEAR!
    Obesity does indeed kill. It killed a young acquaintance of mine years ago, she was only 29. It killed the father-in-law of one of my husband's co-workers just this week, he was only 56. It killed my mother-in-law's daughter, at the age of 56, just a couple years ago. SOBERING. SCARY. SAD. Subsequent tests and a visit to a cardiologist, proved my heart to be just fine--but I was one of the lucky ones. It wasn't too late for me. And I changed my life. My goal was just to get healthier. But somewhere along the way, the weight loss gave me back my life. I can do the things I used to do, and MORE. I can wear pretty clothes, size 8 and 10 from any store in the world. At my age, I am really just too old to gain this weight back and try to lose it again--any of it. So this HAS to be my lifestyle now. And as hard as it is every day, it is worth it. Thanks for writing this blog, to keep me motivated and inspired on my journey.

  8. Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

    @dupster Inspiring comment. Sounds like you have done amazing! People like you keep me motivated.